I had the opportunity to officiate the wedding of a very good friend yesterday. In my message to them I encouraged them to continue doing the things that led them to their wedding day. I challenged them to pursue God first. Pursue growing themselves & each other into the people God has called them to be. And I challenged them to pursue keeping the promises they made on their wedding day.
Why is it that when we look at marriage from a 10,000 foot view it seems simple? We can take a Good guess at what's coming, how we should deal with them, how we should contain our anger & jealous & discontentment. We know what we should do when we look at marriage from this elevated perspective. But when you're on the ground level, caught up in the daily chaos that is marriage...we can get caught off guard. When have have stopped intentionally pursuing God, pursuing growth, & pursuing the promises...the unthinkable can happen. And it will, unless we constantly remind ourselves that there is a different perspective, one that sees the whole landscape. One that is from a God who loves us more than we love ourselves & wants us to succeed more than we could dream of. Why don't we trust that perspective more?
To my newly wedded friends, don't drift. Be intentional. Always remember there is another perspective, another way to look & approach things.
To my friends struggling in marriage. Believe that God knows it. God sees it. God feels it. God sees the broader landscape. God wants to restore, but it requires you to place yourself under His desires for you & your relationship, not doing your own thing anymore, but rather His thing. You can't do it on your own, You CAN do it with God & some life changes. Believe that.